In a 2015 study by Covenant Eyes, roughly half of all professing Christian men and one-fifth of all professing Christian women admit to being porn addicts. Other reports indicate the problem could be even more extensive.
Whether you are struggling with pornography or not, below are 11 recent articles on overcoming pornography. We need to guard ourselves from this deadly sin, and we need to pray that God will protect the body of Christ. We can never be too prepared or vigilant to guard against this ubiquitous sin.
John Piper defines lust as “a sexual desire that dishonors its object and disregards God.” You dishonor the object of your lust. In order to dishonor a person in this way, you need to disregard God himself.
Piper explains that a person’s belief system controls their actions. What do you believe will happen if you act on your lust or if you don’t? Saying no to pornography requires a change in our thinking and a dependence on God’s spirit.
The Spirit of God produces self-control in the believer by “revealing the beauties of Christ to our souls as supremely beautiful and supremely satisfying. Christians enjoy Christ with a fullness of joy that outweighs every possible pleasure of lust.”
Ed Welch asks 2 questions.
- Why fight sexual temptation?
- How can we fight sexual temptation?
Welch explains that the first question requires the most attention. We need biblical reasons to answer potential excuses and hard questions.
- Why bother? Pornography doesn’t hurt anyone.
- If I had a wife, I wouldn’t need this.
- All men look at porn. It’s how we are created.
- This next time will be the last.
Welch summarizes the biblical reasons to fight sexual temptation and gives a three step process on how we can fight sexual temptation.
Popular blogger Tim Challies reminds us of seven painful consequences to pornography. These consequences serve as a motivation to persuade those of us looking at pornography to stop right now.
As a physician, I try to help my patients overcome various addictions: smoking, drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, etc. This article supports my personal belief that pornography is the most prevalent and enslaving addition of our time.
The author, Morgan Bennett, summarizes the parallels of pornography with other types of addiction. Bennett gives reasons why pornography is more destructive and enslaving than even narcotic drugs.
Paul Maxwell believes that few Christians provide helpful advice to porn addicts. He also believes that “it is in the moment after pornography indulgence that Satan does his finest work.”
Maxwell lists seven recommendations on how we can find God’s grace after an act of pornography indulgence. I’m sure you will find at least a few of his recommendations helpful.
Written in 2014 by Tim Challies, this article goes through a comprehensive plan on how we can place safeguards on our digital devices. I have not applied his recommendations in my family’s fixed and mobile devices.
Perhaps I should reconsider. My toddler children are getting older. My wife and I can never underestimate the serious danger of pornography and sexual temptation. I can never erase a visual image completely once I have seen it.
Kevin Brooks explains why pornography is so serious. Pornography is heart-breaking because it is so pervasive in the church and the Christian community.
Two thirds of men visit a pornography site at least monthly, and the number increases to 80% for men ages 18-30. Over 50% of professing Christian men look at pornography at least once a month.
This article reviews pornography’s deception and painful effects and consequences. It also gives a list of suggestions on how to battle the temptation and sin of pornography.
Sexual Detox Series
This five chapter ebook was written in 2009 by Tim Challies. 7 years later, it is still relevant and applicable today. Challis intended his ebook to be read from start to finish. If you are serious about overcoming pornography, this free resource is a must-read.
- Part 1: Pornifying the Marriage Bed
- Part 2: Breaking Free
- Part 3: The Theology of Sex
- Part 4: Detoxification
- Part 5: Freedom
Andy Naselli argues that pornography fuels sex slavery (sex trafficking and prostitution), and I fully concur. The sin of pornography is destructive on so many level.
- Pornography wrecks your view on sex.
- Pornography wrecks your view on women.
- Pornography wrecks women’s view on themselves.
- The Porn industry abuses women.
- Pornography is a sin against your wife. If you are not married, pornography is a sin against your future wife.
- Pornography wrecks families.
- Pornography is enslaving.
- Pornography erodes your character.
- Pornography wrecks your time, energy and money.
- Pornography weakens your relationship with God.
- Pornography weakens your service to God.
- God’s wrath is against people who use pornography.
Read Naselli’s article to convince and remind yourself the seriousness and heinousness of pornography.
This is another list of suggestions on how we can overcome the sin of pornography. I particular need to practice steps #5, 8, 9, and 10 daily.
Step #10: Don’t ever assume you have fully won. Walk in victory, but stay on guard.
“Now these things happened to them as an example, but they were written down for our instruction, on whom the end of the ages has come. Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.” (1 Corinthians 10:11-12)
This prayer is a sobering reminder that we need to pray for our friends who are struggling with the sin of pornography. As I pray for myself, I commit to pray for any friend who has confessed and confided in me. “My friend, you are in my prayers.”
Helpful Books and Resources on Overcoming Pornography
- Finally Free: one of the best books on overcoming pornography written by Heath Lambert.
- Covenant Eyes: website that hosts software and a blog to help Christians battle and overcome the sin of pornography.